I’ve never been able to orgasm is their something wrong with me?
I’ve been sexually active for almost 2 years now and I’ve never been able to reach orgasm, either through oral sex, sex, fingering or on my own.
It always feels amazing, but i just can’t seem to get all the way their.
Does anyone have any tips, or suggestions for me.
Please serious answers only!
December 7th, 2009 at 9:48 am
Your problem is not unusual and likely there is nothing wrong with you although having some hormone levels checked is a good starting place – especially testosterone levels.
In some women the plateau stage from arousal to orgasm can be extremely long but orgasm is usually achievable IF stimulation is maintined and sustained. I suggest the following books. I would also suggest the Hatachi Magic wand massager. I have rarely seen a woman who did not orgasm with this powerful little machine
The following book would be helpful I have included links
Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women
For Yourself : The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality
I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide
December 7th, 2009 at 9:48 am
alot of times ladies have things like extra skin and other problams in that department. also i have talked to alot of girls that say after they have there first child that it helps out
December 7th, 2009 at 9:48 am
there are a lot of factors. you first need to find what works, you need a guy willing to try and knows what he is doing.
December 7th, 2009 at 9:48 am
My best advice is to go to your doctor. Odds are he knows a lot more about anatomy than the Braintrust here at Yahoo Answers.
However, I was like that for a long time, and for me the problem was hang ups. I could never relax enough to ‘fully’ enjoy myself, so to speak, until I met my current boyfriend. Of course, there is a small minority of women who actually cannot orgasm, due to the way their genitals are formed. It’s a sad truth, but it’s there.
Anyway, buy a vibrator, talk to your doctor, or both. I can imagine that there’s a good chance that both would work wonders in their own way, but the doctor would be your best bet.
December 7th, 2009 at 9:48 am
Well the first step is to go see a medical pro to make sure there isn’t anything else going on. If you’re all clear there then try relaxing more. Have a good healthy meal. Maybe a glass of wine to relax (if you’re over 21). Breathe deeply. Keep the lights really low (maybe even close your eyes) and make sure there are no weird background noises around (including TV). It’s apparently easier for women to get an orgasm alone than with a partner so get a good toy, some good lube and be patient with yourself. Maybe you’re very visual so you could look into getting some porn (whatever type you feel turns you on). Also don’t forget that most people get it on at night when their energy levels are at their lowest. Try getting off earlier in the day. I know for guys there’s a big difference. We are much hornier in the mornings and occasionally wake up with hard ons.
Anyway, good luck with everything and don’t get frustrated because then you’ll definitely not get off.
December 7th, 2009 at 9:48 am
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http://www.holisticwisdom.com/g-spot-cream.htm
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